Closure

A man needs a closure.  He may have moved on, but without closure he will not be free.  One part of him will always be tied to the past (or its residue).  A man can move on without a closure, but he will never be able to let go.  And letting go is a big part of healing process.

A closure can take various forms, but it involves one main feature: a sense of finalization.  One last handshake, one last hug, one last kiss, even just one last smile can be a closure, as long as the man takes and interprets it as a final act of saying goodbye.  Without that sense of finalization, the act of moving on will not change anything.  It may have been years, and the man may have moved on, he may even think that he has finally been able to let go of the past.  However, at even the slightest hint of reappearance of that past, all the feelings will return as if the time never moved at all.  He will be back at square one.  No matter what the circumstances are nowadays, all the feelings he has inside (feelings that he thinks have been forgotten or have been diminished) will resurface with that reappearance.

A man needs a closure because moving on and letting go are two different things.  Without letting go, a man will never be free, will never find serendipity, will never be truly happy.  Once that feeling resurfaces, it will complicate things beyond comprehension.  The man may be wise enough and mature enough  to restrain himself not to follow up the feeling, but he still won't be able to deceive his own heart; that the feeling is still there.  To be truly free, a man needs a closure, whatever form it takes.

Goodbye